Sitting here watching Forrest Gump on an otherwise uneventful evening. I feel as though I have a lot of soul searcing to do right now. Though I suppose the present is just as good a time as any. My decent paying job was temporarily wiped out in the flood which has left me with a lot of free time. Time that I feel has actually hurt to an extent. Since I was 19 (I'm now 26) I've spent the near entirety of that period with a man 35 years my senior who is turning 61 this August. Briefly last March, when he informed me in a very callous way that he would never marry me..we seperated briefly.. I dated a lawyer, who in all honesty, despite a common interest in having fun and the legal field-- it just wasn't meant to be, so the main man of my life and I decided to regroup and try and make it work yet again. So now, I am at a loss. Once again caught him messing around online..the third time now--corresponding with at least 3 dozen women, suggesting to have,honor, hold, love, spoil relentlessly..all the things I so desired from him. The only variance-- someone a bit older..within 15 years or so of his age range. Its been rather depressing, to love someone so deeply and have them show such little consideration for your feelings. We were supposed to talk today, actually, i was supposed to go over to his "mansion" in the elite end of town which I sometimes feel a stranger...but instead, he changed his mind again..claiming depression, knowing that was the primary reason I needed to see him-- that not working, and knowing of his online infidelity is causing me a great deal of emotional pain...Sometimes I don't know why I bother anymore, other than out of an infallible dedication. I just can't help but be pained right now..Perhaps my future blogs will be more positive. I'm not used to not working--my inner workaholic is going postal and I can't seem to get out of this funk, especially with his lack of a willingness to help at all, emotionally or financially, both of which he is capable of. How can I keep forgiving this person.. Will I be 30, still unmarried, still latched on until he just decides he's going to do what he wants to whether I like It or not? (almost like right now-- "you can deal with it or don't"
Sitting here watching Forrest Gump on an otherwise uneventful evening. I feel as though I have a lot of soul searcing to do right now. Though I suppose the present is just as good a time as any. My decent paying job was temporarily wiped out in the flood which has left me with a lot of free time. Time that I feel has actually hurt to an extent. Since I was 19 (I'm now 26) I've spent the near entirety of that period with a man 35 years my senior who is turning 61 this August. Briefly last March, when he informed me in a very callous way that he would never marry me..we seperated briefly.. I dated a lawyer, who in all honesty, despite a common interest in having fun and the legal field-- it just wasn't meant to be, so the main man of my life and I decided to regroup and try and make it work yet again. So now, I am at a loss. Once again caught him messing around online..the third time now--corresponding with at least 3 dozen women, suggesting to have,honor, hold, love, spoil relentlessly..all the things I so desired from him. The only variance-- someone a bit older..within 15 years or so of his age range. Its been rather depressing, to love someone so deeply and have them show such little consideration for your feelings. We were supposed to talk today, actually, i was supposed to go over to his "mansion" in the elite end of town which I sometimes feel a stranger...but instead, he changed his mind again..claiming depression, knowing that was the primary reason I needed to see him-- that not working, and knowing of his online infidelity is causing me a great deal of emotional pain...Sometimes I don't know why I bother anymore, other than out of an infallible dedication. I just can't help but be pained right now..Perhaps my future blogs will be more positive. I'm not used to not working--my inner workaholic is going postal and I can't seem to get out of this funk, especially with his lack of a willingness to help at all, emotionally or financially, both of which he is capable of. How can I keep forgiving this person.. Will I be 30, still unmarried, still latched on until he just decides he's going to do what he wants to whether I like It or not? (almost like right now-- "you can deal with it or don't"
I am a chemist and Dr. of Acupuncture and you seem to be highly intelliegent. What I don't get is that you're letting one "bad" apple derail you from being happy. One must live life as though today is the last day you have on earth. Carefree and with gusto! Let the chips fall where they may, it doesn't matter. Remember the old cliche, "there are more fishes in the sea." I love the outdoors, was once on the swimming team, love to practice martial arts (only for improvement of health and self-defense). Will always treat a lady with charm and passion. Afterall, if there is no passion, what's the use?
I am a chemist and Dr. of Acupuncture and you seem to be highly intelliegent. What I don't get is that you're letting one "bad" apple derail you from being happy. One must live life as though today is the last day you have on earth. Carefree and with gusto! Let the chips fall where they may, it doesn't matter. Remember the old cliche, "there are more fishes in the sea." I love the outdoors, was once on the swimming team, love to practice martial arts (only for improvement of health and self-defense). Will always treat a lady with charm and passion. Afterall, if there is no passion, what's the use?
After reading your blog I couldn't help going over your profile. Sorry about that, but I'm a very curious person.
Well, for what I read there you seem to be a young and good-looking girl who is self-sufficient and full of expectations, but most importantly you seem like a very intelligent woman, so why are you hesitant?
You know, the funny thing here is...
You ask,"How can I keep forgiving this person... Will I be 30, still unmarried, still latched on until he just decides he's going to do what he wants to whether I like It or not?".
I'd say, "You really don't know the answer to that?"
Good luck with your decision.
Hello Sweetelisum, nice to meet you...
After reading your blog I couldn't help going over your profile. Sorry about that, but I'm a very curious person.
Well, for what I read there you seem to be a young and good-looking girl who is self-sufficient and full of expectations, but most importantly you seem like a very intelligent woman, so why are you hesitant?
You know, the funny thing here is...
You ask,"How can I keep forgiving this person... Will I be 30, still unmarried, still latched on until he just decides he's going to do what he wants to whether I like It or not?".
I'd say, "You really don't know the answer to that?"
Searching I've got the opposite view.I'd say that he's the type of bloke who girls like her maybe deserve and will often inevitably end up with and despite all of her complaints about her situation on here the fact is she did'nt actually walk away when,as she says,he callously informed her that he'd never marry her.She actually went back for more of the same treatment.In addition to that her profile states that she's another of those typical single girls who is happy looking for a divorcee who's obviously got one or more failed relationships behind him possibly,if not probably,due to the callous treatment of an ex so it seems to me that they propably deserve each other.
Searching I've got the opposite view.I'd say that he's the type of bloke who girls like her maybe deserve and will often inevitably end up with and despite all of her complaints about her situation on here the fact is she did'nt actually walk away when,as she says,he callously informed her that he'd never marry her.She actually went back for more of the same treatment.In addition to that her profile states that she's another of those typical single girls who is happy looking for a divorcee who's obviously got one or more failed relationships behind him possibly,if not probably,due to the callous treatment of an ex so it seems to me that they propably deserve each other.
Yes,Jag6000.you are right,I see that now.He is not her husband.I misread it.However,by the looks of things the fact the man is not her husband,may be a good thing.
Yes,Jag6000.you are right,I see that now.He is not her husband.I misread it.However,by the looks of things the fact the man is not her husband,may be a good thing.
Thanks litenbrite.No you did'nt hurt my feelings at all it's just that I hear those type of comments all the time so I just challenge them all in the same way whenever I hear them.I know that I often raise the same type of issues so often but the reason for that is because I feel that they are the only reasons as to why I,for one,am in this situation and reading sweetelisum's comments just seems to sum up many of the issues which I've experienced in life so far,concerning women giving chances out in life,to blokes who have had that chance while single blokes looking for that one chance in life get left on the shelf.In that context it's never been an issue of finding someone who I get on with as I've always found that not to be the issue concerning those girls who I've wanted in life.The difficult bit has always been getting them to accept a date and to take the possibility of a relationship forward and then having to put down to experience the fact that those girls then decide to give a married/seperated/divorced bloke,who's already had his chance/s in life,another one.As for sweetelisum if it's too soon for her to decide what she wants (at 26 ????)and the world is her oyster being single then there's not much point in her coming on a dating site complaining about not being married.Having been turned down by girls who married in their mid teens (but to divorcees not me unfortunately)hopefully you'll understand why I just can't understand your view on that.
Thanks litenbrite.No you did'nt hurt my feelings at all it's just that I hear those type of comments all the time so I just challenge them all in the same way whenever I hear them.I know that I often raise the same type of issues so often but the reason for that is because I feel that they are the only reasons as to why I,for one,am in this situation and reading sweetelisum's comments just seems to sum up many of the issues which I've experienced in life so far,concerning women giving chances out in life,to blokes who have had that chance while single blokes looking for that one chance in life get left on the shelf.In that context it's never been an issue of finding someone who I get on with as I've always found that not to be the issue concerning those girls who I've wanted in life.The difficult bit has always been getting them to accept a date and to take the possibility of a relationship forward and then having to put down to experience the fact that those girls then decide to give a married/seperated/divorced bloke,who's already had his chance/s in life,another one.As for sweetelisum if it's too soon for her to decide what she wants (at 26 ????)and the world is her oyster being single then there's not much point in her coming on a dating site complaining about not being married.Having been turned down by girls who married in their mid teens (but to divorcees not me unfortunately)hopefully you'll understand why I just can't understand your view on that.
Jag, Maybe its a little too soon for her to decide what she wants, the world is her oyster. and Jag I was pulling your leg about 'A young un for breeding purposes' First and formost, you should try and find someone you get on with, I know it must seem impossible. Someone made a comment on my blog that he found an Asian woman that was wonderful to him...doesnt make sense that he is still on here. But to be honest I really don't want to judge anyone, [even you! LOL!] I am just trying to jog you out of your tunnel vision, Helena has tried that too. You keep repeating and you will get more of the same. I am sorry if I hurt your feelings. Lite
Jag, Maybe its a little too soon for her to decide what she wants, the world is her oyster. and Jag I was pulling your leg about 'A young un for breeding purposes' First and formost, you should try and find someone you get on with, I know it must seem impossible. Someone made a comment on my blog that he found an Asian woman that was wonderful to him...doesnt make sense that he is still on here. But to be honest I really don't want to judge anyone, [even you! LOL!] I am just trying to jog you out of your tunnel vision, Helena has tried that too. You keep repeating and you will get more of the same. I am sorry if I hurt your feelings. Lite
litenbrite I tried to 'come to sweetelisum's rescue' but she obviously can't seem to make up her mind on the idea of sticking around with a bloke who's a lot older than her stated age limit on here lol who certainly does'nt seem to want to have a loving relationship with her of the type in which marriage and having children,(born out of love),would be a part of that relationship for both HER benefit AND MINE just like any other couple in a good marriage.In that context your comment,concerning me supposedly looking 'for a young un for breeding purposes',sounds like something unfair and inhuman and has no place in the context of what I've written here or in my profile.But the issue/saga of the white shirt lol is another one of those issues which just adds to the ironies in my life,just like this situation,in which I've seen so many blokes who are older than me (and who probably don't need to wear a white shirt to pull girls like sweetelisum),get more than their fair share in life while I get left to hang out to dry.Anyway if anyone needs to see a bigger pic of any posted on the site just click on the one shown and it's then enlarged.And searching 2007 the girl has been happy enough to spend seven years of her teens and early twenties with a bloke 35 years older than her and still has'nt decided wether or not to dump him and according to her his age is'nt the problem in their relationship anyway.You've misread the issue it's the fact that he is'nt her husband and does'nt want to marry her and/or seem to want to give her his total committment that seems to be the problem.So anyone younger than him who would like to do that should'nt count themselves out of at least trying to offer her something better.IF she wants it.Having said that it's those girls who I've seen so often in life,in the context that they'll give a married/seperated/divorced bloke of whatever age,who's run out on/failed in a previous marriage,another chance in life,but they won't give a single bloke of whatever age just one chance,who really can't complain when they find out that their idea of Mr Right turns out to be Mr Wrong.In sweetelisum's case that might probably be a case of jumping out of the frying pan of her present bad relationship into the fire of another one.
litenbrite I tried to 'come to sweetelisum's rescue' but she obviously can't seem to make up her mind on the idea of sticking around with a bloke who's a lot older than her stated age limit on here lol who certainly does'nt seem to want to have a loving relationship with her of the type in which marriage and having children,(born out of love),would be a part of that relationship for both HER benefit AND MINE just like any other couple in a good marriage.In that context your comment,concerning me supposedly looking 'for a young un for breeding purposes',sounds like something unfair and inhuman and has no place in the context of what I've written here or in my profile.But the issue/saga of the white shirt lol is another one of those issues which just adds to the ironies in my life,just like this situation,in which I've seen so many blokes who are older than me (and who probably don't need to wear a white shirt to pull girls like sweetelisum),get more than their fair share in life while I get left to hang out to dry.Anyway if anyone needs to see a bigger pic of any posted on the site just click on the one shown and it's then enlarged.And searching 2007 the girl has been happy enough to spend seven years of her teens and early twenties with a bloke 35 years older than her and still has'nt decided wether or not to dump him and according to her his age is'nt the problem in their relationship anyway.You've misread the issue it's the fact that he is'nt her husband and does'nt want to marry her and/or seem to want to give her his total committment that seems to be the problem.So anyone younger than him who would like to do that should'nt count themselves out of at least trying to offer her something better.IF she wants it.Having said that it's those girls who I've seen so often in life,in the context that they'll give a married/seperated/divorced bloke of whatever age,who's run out on/failed in a previous marriage,another chance in life,but they won't give a single bloke of whatever age just one chance,who really can't complain when they find out that their idea of Mr Right turns out to be Mr Wrong.In sweetelisum's case that might probably be a case of jumping out of the frying pan of her present bad relationship into the fire of another one.
Jag, This Blog really isnt about you or I....But I am going to address the WHITE SHIRT THING. I told you that because your picture is small and the blue shirt blends in so you can hardly see you. Example take a look at "TRUE ROMANCES picture and you will see what I mean.There is no FEMINIST Conspiracy and it isnt shallow. I am beginning to feel like your big Sister. I do not mean any offence. but sometimes you sound like the old man on the FAST SHOW you know "JUST MY LUCK" LOL! I should imagine you still look quite young.....if only i didn't need a magnifying glass to see your picture. I take my pictures with my Webcam. its easy and they are dated. But You also have to change your approach, instead of keep on implementing that you want a "YOUNG UN FOR BREEDING PURPOSES, Why not just try someone that you like before mentioning that. But to get back to SWEETESILIUM...who needs Motivation and Support to change and find someone that would appreciate her, I am sure so many of you mature men could come to her rescue.
Jag, This Blog really isnt about you or I....But I am going to address the WHITE SHIRT THING. I told you that because your picture is small and the blue shirt blends in so you can hardly see you. Example take a look at "TRUE ROMANCES picture and you will see what I mean.There is no FEMINIST Conspiracy and it isnt shallow. I am beginning to feel like your big Sister. I do not mean any offence. but sometimes you sound like the old man on the FAST SHOW you know "JUST MY LUCK" LOL! I should imagine you still look quite young.....if only i didn't need a magnifying glass to see your picture. I take my pictures with my Webcam. its easy and they are dated. But You also have to change your approach, instead of keep on implementing that you want a "YOUNG UN FOR BREEDING PURPOSES, Why not just try someone that you like before mentioning that. But to get back to SWEETESILIUM...who needs Motivation and Support to change and find someone that would appreciate her, I am sure so many of you mature men could come to her rescue.
Sweettiesum,sorry to hear about your husband being unfaithful.Unfortunately,this happens a lot.It is hard to imagine,I believe it,however most of us older guys have a hard time even if we try to cheat.You will find someone you can trust.Give it time.You are young enough and being on a site like this may help.read your profile,it was interested,unfortunately I am a year over your maximum age-range..As for you job situation,lots of folks are in a similar situation.I am still working.However,my hours have been cut,which I do not like.You may want to read (What Color is Your Patrachute)by Richard Nelson Bolles and other career books.Maybe you can get them out of the library.Unfortunately,this recession will probably not end any time soon.Good luck to you.
Sweettiesum,sorry to hear about your husband being unfaithful.Unfortunately,this happens a lot.It is hard to imagine,I believe it,however most of us older guys have a hard time even if we try to cheat.You will find someone you can trust.Give it time.You are young enough and being on a site like this may help.read your profile,it was interested,unfortunately I am a year over your maximum age-range..As for you job situation,lots of folks are in a similar situation.I am still working.However,my hours have been cut,which I do not like.You may want to read (What Color is Your Patrachute)by Richard Nelson Bolles and other career books.Maybe you can get them out of the library.Unfortunately,this recession will probably not end any time soon.Good luck to you.
The man is a fool I would be proud to have you with me and introduce you to my friends. You seem to have your head on strait except where he is concerned. Good Luck
The man is a fool I would be proud to have you with me and introduce you to my friends. You seem to have your head on strait except where he is concerned. Good Luck
Sweetelisum those comments just make your situation and viewpoint seem even more unbelievable to me.I've told women like litenbrite before my situation says more about the erratic and erroneous criterea which many young women apply than anything which I'm doing wrong.So you met a bloke 35 years older than you when you were 19,who you obviously decided to give another chance in life to, and you realised early on that the bloke was just out for his own satisfaction and would leave you high and dry when it came to some serious loving committment towards you (marriage)proved by your situation 7 years later.Then you (rightly) posted your complaint about your situation on here,where you've maybe found some ways to fix the problem,but having given up on your aspirations of finding someone who'd like to make the type of committment which you've always wanted you're still under the impression that you're better off with that life which you're complaining about than finding something/someone better ???.Go figure.So litenbrite now tell me it's all my own fault because I should wear a white shirt in my pic LOL LOL.
Sweetelisum those comments just make your situation and viewpoint seem even more unbelievable to me.I've told women like litenbrite before my situation says more about the erratic and erroneous criterea which many young women apply than anything which I'm doing wrong.So you met a bloke 35 years older than you when you were 19,who you obviously decided to give another chance in life to, and you realised early on that the bloke was just out for his own satisfaction and would leave you high and dry when it came to some serious loving committment towards you (marriage)proved by your situation 7 years later.Then you (rightly) posted your complaint about your situation on here,where you've maybe found some ways to fix the problem,but having given up on your aspirations of finding someone who'd like to make the type of committment which you've always wanted you're still under the impression that you're better off with that life which you're complaining about than finding something/someone better ???.Go figure.So litenbrite now tell me it's all my own fault because I should wear a white shirt in my pic LOL LOL.
I really do appreciate all of the replies..the complimentary, as well as the frank, which I know I need to hear given my history of forgive, forget, and then "oh wait a minute, this is vaguely reminiscent" moments... Though he has deleted all but one of the profiles I was aware of..we are still supposed to discuss this whole situation today, which leaves me a bit unnerved. It was supposed to happen yesterday, however, his grandson was severely injured in an accident, and regardless of how angry and overly propelled I am to jump into this whole discussion--It was just one of those things where you have to step back ask God or whomever you believe in for the patience to let a person deal with a crisis, be there if you can, and put aside any ill will...It just wouldn't have been right on my part. Today, one way or the other.. I know there needs to be some sort of resolve. Throughout the duration of this whole thing (while he claims no infidelity rather than his online escapades), I have only been allowed to have male friends, not date, though that is what he has appeared to have been doing. (More, do as I say and not as I do). I had given up on my aspirations of getting married years ago, because that was what he claimed not to have wanted and therefore I assumed a life with him was better than a life without him-- but either way, its not fair to me. I can't say 100% that this is it, but certainly, that if he is procuring dates--there should be no reason why I cannot attempt to meet someone as well...and as I don't believe in multiple transgressions during the same period, I doubt that policy is going to last (and for once in his life, it may not be to his benefit).
Blah. Its like waking up on the day of a major surgery, wondering if you'll still have all of your organs and appendages at the end of it..but I suppose sometimes cut away the dead growth to see if its possible for something healthy to resurface.
Ah well. I believe it's off for a jog/walk for me pretty soon. Too much coffee and energy to burn. Hope everyone is having a great day.
I really do appreciate all of the replies..the complimentary, as well as the frank, which I know I need to hear given my history of forgive, forget, and then "oh wait a minute, this is vaguely reminiscent" moments... Though he has deleted all but one of the profiles I was aware of..we are still supposed to discuss this whole situation today, which leaves me a bit unnerved. It was supposed to happen yesterday, however, his grandson was severely injured in an accident, and regardless of how angry and overly propelled I am to jump into this whole discussion--It was just one of those things where you have to step back ask God or whomever you believe in for the patience to let a person deal with a crisis, be there if you can, and put aside any ill will...It just wouldn't have been right on my part. Today, one way or the other.. I know there needs to be some sort of resolve. Throughout the duration of this whole thing (while he claims no infidelity rather than his online escapades), I have only been allowed to have male friends, not date, though that is what he has appeared to have been doing. (More, do as I say and not as I do). I had given up on my aspirations of getting married years ago, because that was what he claimed not to have wanted and therefore I assumed a life with him was better than a life without him-- but either way, its not fair to me. I can't say 100% that this is it, but certainly, that if he is procuring dates--there should be no reason why I cannot attempt to meet someone as well...and as I don't believe in multiple transgressions during the same period, I doubt that policy is going to last (and for once in his life, it may not be to his benefit).
Blah. Its like waking up on the day of a major surgery, wondering if you'll still have all of your organs and appendages at the end of it..but I suppose sometimes cut away the dead growth to see if its possible for something healthy to resurface.
Ah well. I believe it's off for a jog/walk for me pretty soon. Too much coffee and energy to burn. Hope everyone is having a great day.
Sweetelisum Like litenbrite said it's up to you to make the changes.But to me it just seems unbelievable as to why any young woman would stick around with that type of bloke when there's others like me out here looking for a woman like you.But Phoenix 45322 is wrong when he says that distance is a barrier.I would'nt let a few miles of ocean stand in the way if you'd be interested.
Sweetelisum Like litenbrite said it's up to you to make the changes.But to me it just seems unbelievable as to why any young woman would stick around with that type of bloke when there's others like me out here looking for a woman like you.But Phoenix 45322 is wrong when he says that distance is a barrier.I would'nt let a few miles of ocean stand in the way if you'd be interested.
It is unfortunate that you are going thru this, this man may not understand the purpose of men and women, men are suppossed to care for, protect and cherish women as what they are. God, in the beginning gave Adam a woman for him to cherish to provide for, for him to keep as a light in his life, for him to have the joy of making her as happy as he possibly could. This should not change just because so much time has passed. I feel sorry for a man like that for he will never find true joy. You on the other hand look at yourself as the treasure you are, as all women are, and treasure your self, for in that you will find happiness knowing the gift you are to the any man that would treat you as such, and realize how very lucky he is for your prsence in his life. Bigandtall2001
It is unfortunate that you are going thru this, this man may not understand the purpose of men and women, men are suppossed to care for, protect and cherish women as what they are. God, in the beginning gave Adam a woman for him to cherish to provide for, for him to keep as a light in his life, for him to have the joy of making her as happy as he possibly could. This should not change just because so much time has passed. I feel sorry for a man like that for he will never find true joy. You on the other hand look at yourself as the treasure you are, as all women are, and treasure your self, for in that you will find happiness knowing the gift you are to the any man that would treat you as such, and realize how very lucky he is for your prsence in his life. Bigandtall2001
I read your post and then checked out your profile. I am sorry to hear of anyone being treated as you have been. My ex did much the same to me a decade ago. After reading your post, your profile and seeing your pictures, I can say, without fear of contradiction, the guy is an idiot. As great as the internet can be, it also seems to have become a curse for relationships much too often. I know that many of the people who end up being untruthful and unfaithful would probably do it anyway. But, the internet offers so many options and opportunities today that it is a wonder that there are still as many who do stay faithful. I only wish I lived a little closer to you to offer a shoulder to lean on, or even cry on. I hope you find the strength to leave the destructive relationship you find yourself caught in. Just remember that there are still a few of us out here who are seeking a long-term relationship and wouldn't do such things. Good luck in dealing with your problem and I hope the job situation improves for you soon. Be strong.
I read your post and then checked out your profile. I am sorry to hear of anyone being treated as you have been. My ex did much the same to me a decade ago. After reading your post, your profile and seeing your pictures, I can say, without fear of contradiction, the guy is an idiot. As great as the internet can be, it also seems to have become a curse for relationships much too often. I know that many of the people who end up being untruthful and unfaithful would probably do it anyway. But, the internet offers so many options and opportunities today that it is a wonder that there are still as many who do stay faithful. I only wish I lived a little closer to you to offer a shoulder to lean on, or even cry on. I hope you find the strength to leave the destructive relationship you find yourself caught in. Just remember that there are still a few of us out here who are seeking a long-term relationship and wouldn't do such things. Good luck in dealing with your problem and I hope the job situation improves for you soon. Be strong.
Sweetelisum, I'm 49 and I've learned a long time ago not to go chasing people! As you said in the last part of your post "people are going to do what they are going to do." You seem like a very nice person that has al ot to offer someone of intelligence that sees the value in you as a person, FIRST and FOREMOST and is willing to edify that to you and others on a daily basis. You deserve a lot better...!!
So go out and GET better...!!
You don't need to be with anyone who is going to cheat on you, hurt you and make you cry and then say, "it's your fault" they are behaving in the manner they are.
You have a full and rich life to live and you shouldn't spend it with your head down. If you continue to keep your head down your life will simply pass you by.
The other thing is with your head down, no one can see your beautiful face, eyes and smile -- so yeah, you'll probably be 30, still unmarried etc...!
Keep your head up and know that you are bringing a lot to the table for just the right person for you....!
Hope this helps you
Sweetelisum, I'm 49 and I've learned a long time ago not to go chasing people! As you said in the last part of your post "people are going to do what they are going to do." You seem like a very nice person that has al ot to offer someone of intelligence that sees the value in you as a person, FIRST and FOREMOST and is willing to edify that to you and others on a daily basis. You deserve a lot better...!!
So go out and GET better...!!
You don't need to be with anyone who is going to cheat on you, hurt you and make you cry and then say, "it's your fault" they are behaving in the manner they are.
You have a full and rich life to live and you shouldn't spend it with your head down. If you continue to keep your head down your life will simply pass you by.
The other thing is with your head down, no one can see your beautiful face, eyes and smile -- so yeah, you'll probably be 30, still unmarried etc...!
Keep your head up and know that you are bringing a lot to the table for just the right person for you....!
. I know affairs of the heart are very complicated and often painful and you may now want to hear what I have to say, but this man is using you to serve his own ego. You deserve better than that; but only you can decide when the time is right for you to deserve more.
. I know affairs of the heart are very complicated and often painful and you may now want to hear what I have to say, but this man is using you to serve his own ego. You deserve better than that; but only you can decide when the time is right for you to deserve more.
Sweetelisum, Sometimes abuse can become addictive. And its a hard thing to get out of. and from what you describe he's got you hooked by never ever letting you have anything that you desire most of the time, and just throws you a bone now and then to wet your appetite. and you are enabling him to do this by keep going back...for more abuse. You are a young women and no man that loved you would treat you that way. It is unhealthy. I would get away as fast as you can. There would be so many good men that would treasure and love you. Im sure there are lots on this site that would adore having a younger women and would treat you like a Queen. Leave him to his Cyber Fantasies. He seems to have enough of them. But nothing will change for you until you make the changes.
Sweetelisum, Sometimes abuse can become addictive. And its a hard thing to get out of. and from what you describe he's got you hooked by never ever letting you have anything that you desire most of the time, and just throws you a bone now and then to wet your appetite. and you are enabling him to do this by keep going back...for more abuse. You are a young women and no man that loved you would treat you that way. It is unhealthy. I would get away as fast as you can. There would be so many good men that would treasure and love you. Im sure there are lots on this site that would adore having a younger women and would treat you like a Queen. Leave him to his Cyber Fantasies. He seems to have enough of them. But nothing will change for you until you make the changes.
